Why is there such judgement over having a C-section?
I read a tweet at the weekend by an antenatal blogger, bemoaning the fact that the number of C-section operations are rising in the UK.
When I did my prenatal classes, I remember there was a very short section at the end about what would happen if you had to have an emergency C-section. I also remember mentally switching off and smugly thinking “Well that’s not going to happen to me”. What an idiot I was!
Two weeks later and 54 hours into my hideous labour, my unborn son is in distress and I’m being rushed to theatre for an emergency C-section. He’s born safe and well and I shall be thankful forever for the procedure that probably saved both our lives.
A quarter of babies are born in the UK by C-section. So why is having a C-section looked upon so negatively? And why do people who are so influential to pregnant mothers (like that antenatal blogger) make women who have them feel inadequate?
I felt deprived of the wonder of having a natural birth and felt I had failed as a mother because I didn’t do it naturally like my own mother had done.
Fortunately, by the time I was pregnant with my daughter two years later, I’d spoken with many other mothers who had had C-sections for a range of reasons. This made me realise that for the sake of my unborn daughter and my own health, I should opt for an elective C-section and that there was no shame in making that sound medical decision.
My point is that there should be no negativity about how a child is born these days. A C-section is not the easy option. It’s a major operation and unlike other operations when you are given time to recuperate and recover, with a C-section, you go straight into the hardest time of your life.
So, please can we have some sense from these so-called experts? If I were running the NHS purse-strings, I suspect that I’d have a motivation to reduce C-sections as they are obviously more costly. Antenatal professionals should be promoting choice and not paying lip service to it. They should be working with parents to find the best option for them.
So what do you think? Am I being over-sensitive and naive? Or do you value the opportunity for choice as I do?
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Yes, I think that more listening should be done for the individual person's needs. I'm sorry that you had a traumatic experience.